December 13, 2007
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Should second chances be given to someone who has broken your trust?
I grew up saying if my Husband ever cheated on me (the ultimate betrayal of Trust), I would divorce him in a heartbeat. I got married and my husband cheated on me with the most vilest, evilest, loving the cheating game and putting horns on her husband, exwife. I love my Husband and found that divorce was not an option even remotely interesting to me. I fought for my marriage, my love, and my family. He realized that he had made a mistake even if it was a mistake that shattered my Trust in him. My initial Trust was a gift of Love to him. Now, while I am giving him a second chance, the Trust has to be earned day by day, then week by week, then month by month and hopefully, soon Trust will not be an issue. I trusted him so completely that I had never even considered that he might cheat on me. So, I do believe in second chances except there is always exceptions to the rule: stealing from me or my family, or causing damage to my family. I know I should have a forgiving heart but I have also found that some people take it as a sign that you have put the welcome mat for them to trample through your Life or the Lives of your Family. I have learned to harden my heart to the vultures of this world.
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Edit: My Husband traveled through tonight and we had dinner together along with Jen, Jessie and Alex. He had Jessie come in her car too since he is paying her to wrap my Christmas presents and his plan was for her to sneak them into the house. I never look for the gifts but usually either they wind up telling me what they have gotten me, giving it to me early, or I accidently come across them. Jessie has assured me that he has picked really well this year and even got him to give her money for an additional gift she knew I wanted. He is so cute…..he is worried that I will not like his gifts….like that is going to happen. Christmas is a freebie for me since I think everything is a plus at Christmas time. Now…..Valentine’s Day…..that is a whole different story! My whole family knows about the F***ing Cookie fiasco that fateful Valentine’s Day when he tried to take the cheap way out! That is one gift he has never repeated …..even as a joke! It is funny now but at the time I was just a fuming. My friends were the ones that finally got me to see the humor since they were having a hard time keeping a straight face until finally they burst out in laughter. The ribbing they gave my Husband helped cure him of repeating that mistake ever again. The F***ing Cookie Fiasco is now one of our family stories. I think my girls now use it as a reference in insuring that their Husbands and Soon-to-Be Husband do right by them on Valentine’s Day.
Comments (10)
Hello,Nice to meet you. I read a bit of your blog and wow, can I relate!
RYC: I’ve added you.
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RYC: Well I won’t spoil it for you! I might have it up as early as tonight, (Family life dictates my writing life as I am sure you can understand!) if not, it will be posted on Monday as I am leaving town for the weekend. I am very glad you liked it. It is inspiring to me, more than anything else, to know that there are readers out there who give feedback. Thank you very much and thank you for you compliment!
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HI! thanks for your kind words and your sub. I enjoyed your blog on trust.
While I’m not personally a strong believer in the rebuilding of a broken trust, it sounds like you’ve definitely got a good handle on it.
Good luck in your endeavor!
Syracuse huh? I’m not too far from you. Lovely weather isn’t it! Not! but ok we live here, gotta expect it.
Your blog on trust is interesting. Not sure I could do it, but sounds like it’s working for you and that’s all that matters.
I know the path you have walked….second chances can be good…it is working 10 years now for me.
Have a great weekend.
I really liked your post on trust. You have a way with words and you always provoke my mind into thinking about things. Thankyou, because without it…my mind wouldnt think at all!!! Im sorry ive not been around reading much lately though, lifes settling down so I should be in and reading! no excuses! Hope you are well. ~ Sarlu xxx
three engagements…and three times l sacked them for lieing.
lm still the same,and lm alone. and wont let anyone into myself.
l have a problem with trust and lies. or l should say, an issue.
l loved reading what u posted, and could feel your strength, good on you.
i believe that trust is earned not given, if they can earn the trust back then i say yes, if they dont put any effort towards it, consider it a blessing they are not in your life anymore!!!
I love reading such because it shows me that there is more out there then what I thought I had and found I did not. Thank you for sharing this hon! It does make me smile. I promise to never shut the door of trusting, but nor will I blindly think it is there. It will take me a long time to be able to open myself again to such.
Hugs’n'Smooches! Love ya!
ROFL We were commenting each other at the same time. Bet we can’t do that again in a hundred years.
Hugs’n'Smooches!