September 19, 2007

• Quick Update......

  Had a great trip to North Carolina to bring Jessie back even though working to clear and clean her house was soooo tiring in that heat.  Even with the air conditioner, I had to rest about every 20 minutes.  We got to visit with Scott, my oldest son, and his wife, Lindy, too which made the trip even better.  They even came down and helped us clean the last day after chiding me for not asking for help sooner.  Jessie had not gotten much done in preparing the house for the move beyond having all the clothes packed for transporting to the car.  She found that when she started packing that she got hung up on the idea that she was packing up James and removing all evidence that they had once had a home together.  I sort of understood since I had similiar feelings when I had to pack up and leave Kentucky after my divorce was almost processed.  The judge made him give me a plane ticket back to California as part of the divorce settlement.  He balked at first until his lawyer told him that he might has well give it to me since the judge was going to give me everything I asked for anyways.  I loved the man and did not want a divorce but Kentucky had allowed a No-Fault Divorce and I was one of the first few cases that they processed under the new proceedings.  Life seemed so unfair and I cried on the court steps.  The judge told me that he was going to let the divorce go through since I could do better than him.  I still do not think it should have been his decision to make since he did not have to live with the results.  Anyways.....Jessie had a hard time motivating.....but that changed when we got there.  It had to change since we had a limited time to accomplish the move.  It did not help that our car threw a timing belt on Labor Day.  My Handy Dandy Husband saved the day with my son Scott by getting the car up and running.  Whew!!!!  That was a scary moment for me when the car died and a relief when it was discovered that it was a timing belt and could be fixed.  Long trip back home since we were so tired from all the work and short on money.  We pulled into rest stops for naps when we got tired.  Alex, the baby, took the ride in stride and was an angel.  Still unpacking and getting organized and dealing with family members coming back to the shelter of our home.  Funny, just a few months ago, my Husband was glooming and dooming over the fact that his kids were leaving the nest and now some are coming back to roost for a bit.  It will not be for long since my two daughters are planning on going back to NC and my Husband will have an even harder time to deal with it since Alex is getting cuter by the minute with his winning smile, dimples, and curly locks.  My three daughters have had a few squabbles since our return but I am insisting that they handle themselves as adults and find a solution without running to Mom to settle lit for them.  Sometimes coming home has an effect to turning back the mental clock in one's brain.  I know that when I have gone home to my Mother's house, I have to resist that pull of childhood so I understand the concept.  My grandson, Damien turned 5 last weekend and found that the Spongebob Squarepants pinatas are really hard to break.  It took Adrianna letting out all her aggression to even slightly puncture it.  Cardboard is not the same as paper mache!  So now I am getting ready to start getting the outside prepared for winter.  The rains have started coming so that means that winter is not far and the trees are starting to don their crimson leaves.  I didn't bring up any deep subjects during our trip to NC but our minister has been having some sermons that seem to have touched my Husband.  Last Sunday, he kept telling me how much he loved me.  Sometimes, I think that he is really seeing me for the first time and is amazed at who I really am since I have run into opposition that have their own agendas and jealousy that have tried to taint his view of me for years.  At least I hope so, since it would make my family so much more  enriched to have a loving Husband and Father around to enjoy the laughter and joy we share as a family.   

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